Comments on: Reinventing Myself

By: Dina Schroeder

Dina Schroeder — Tue, 16 Sep 2014 05:49:14 +0000

I think loss demands the inner journey. Finding who we are without someone we love is a tough place to be. The loss literally rips our insides apart…only Love can piece us back together. Ginger you are LOVED…I look forward to hearing your stories of discovery.

By: Charlotte Hudson

Charlotte Hudson — Tue, 09 Sep 2014 22:57:02 +0000

Ginger, just continue to be yourself. God made Michael the way He made him; and He made you the way He made you. Opposites attract–just like magnets. God doesn’t make mistakes. Take all the time you need to grieve the loss of your soul mate, and do it your way. BUT don’t try to change who you are. Michael loved you for who you are, and he wouldn’t want you to reinvent yourself. And neither do all the others who love you.

By: Kim Stone

Kim Stone — Tue, 09 Sep 2014 17:41:26 +0000

Ginger, I could have written this. Bob was the funny one, the more outgoing one, the person who made the kids laugh. I would like to be those things as well but it’s not going to be easy and I’m not sure it’s even possible. I pray I can find a middle ground that somehow comes naturally. It’s hard when you lose your “front man”. Your blog has proved to be very thought provoking and I thank you for sharing your feelings.

By: Sally Frey

Sally Frey — Tue, 09 Sep 2014 16:28:20 +0000

Ginger,
I know if anyone can reinvent themself it will be you.
Take it one moment at a time and you will get where God plans you to be. I know that Michael will be guiding you to where you should be. Your beautiful family will help you along on this new journey.
Stay strong.

By: Ginger

Ginger — Tue, 09 Sep 2014 16:24:42 +0000

Awesome advice Connie. I look forward to us having some fun together!

By: Connie Kittok

Connie Kittok — Tue, 09 Sep 2014 16:07:29 +0000

Well Ginger that’s a hard one to answer. A lot of what you want to do is going to be hard. You have to rethink the way you are used to thinking. I personally think the way you were in you and Michaels’s relationship is what Michael liked best about you. Most men like to have someone holding down the fort while they go out and have the fun, friends and whatever else makes them happy. Our job in our marriage was to keep the ship afloat. The stable one, the one that put the h in home. Now you have to learn how to have all the fun as you like to call it. Fun can be anything that makes you happy. Little things do it for me. Not expensive trips or long cruses. Just knowing my kids are happy and I have a steady pay check to take care of my needs makes me happy. Knowing I can support myself without the need of leaning on anyone else makes me happy. Knowing yourself, by yourself, and without a partner is a leaning experience. It takes time. You were married at a young age like me and never really had a chance to be out on your own. Be careful though. Not everyone is out looking for your best interest. Some people like to take advantage of people in our situation. I know you have a good head on your shoulders. Hang in there it will come.